Is Sex The Answer?

Playing the waiting game to hear back from publishers is excruciating. I have to stop myself from checking my email several times a day. It does make it easier to jump into a new project, or so they say. And so I did, though I feel more like I'm tip toeing into this new writing venture; sex...er...at least writing about it.

I decided I wanted to get crazy with it, but not too far out where I would cringe writing it. Part of me thinks I this might be a chance to explore a more naughty side, but I'm really not the whips and chains kind of gal. As I do with everything, I started researching. What I found didn't surprise me. Men have always voiced, however quiet, the desire to have a threesome, 9 times out of 10 with two women, big breasts and blond. Jeesh, there's a big surprise.

Women like the idea of multiple partners as well, but they don't stop at two. What I found was women want men in every opening they've got. The idea is certainly intriguing but does it work in the real life? One thing I know about women, is they tend to be jealous about another woman invading their space, while Men can be insecure about their size with one women let alone adding another to the pot. What happens if the going gets hot and the women leave the man out? Ooops. Or if a women has multiple men partners and finds herself showing more attention to one man. Ooops again.

In writing a fantasy, I can ignore the common pit falls of multiple partners, creating the perfect encounter that blows everyone's minds. Does such an encounter exist? Is there anyone out there reading this that might lend me their opinion?

Pushing through writer's block

Every writer goes through this scenario: You sit down at your desk or table, your fingers poised over the keyboard ready to write something, anything. You feel inspired. You've had brilliant ideas all morning long and thought to yourself, if only I could get back to my writing, I could finish the novel! You've gotten your drink, your chocolate, perhaps your favorite music is playing in the background. It's go time!

What's that saying on the bathroom wall-here I sit broken hearted...


Here's what the battle has taught me. We aren’t blocked because of lack of ideas. We're blocked because we're perfectionists. None of the ideas seem good enough; nothing feels quite brilliant enough to become reality. So we sit, stuck at our desks, waiting for something better to come.

But what if nothing better comes? What if your next idea was the best one you will ever have? Just do the unthinkable. Just write. Don't stop to edit, to fix your prose, or the spelling. Just write a first draft, a really bad one, one that will totally suck but will be something you can build upon later.

That’s what I'm learning it means to be a writer. To push through the crappy words and finish the novel!

I was able to do that and finished my second novel last week and submitted it to my publisher. Now I wait, checking my email several times, hopeful for that second contract.

Wish me luck!!!